forever Valentines and busy season thoughts

My husband is an auditor/ CPA for a big four international accounting firm.  I’ve never really talked about this on my blog, but it is a huge part of our life and really impacts a lot that we do!  We try to view the last few years as a lot of people would view going to medical school; this is an investment in Devin’s future career, but sleep and time together is often very limited.

My husband often works until 2 AM on a regular basis.  I’m not saying this to brag, but it is just reality.  

Our first year we lived in Atlanta, Devin traveled over 60%.  There was one year that he worked enough in other states that he had to file tax returns in 5 different states.  When I’ve been in car wrecks and have had slipped discs and concussions, I’ve had to call people to come pick me up to take me to the ER.  We’ve had months where we haven’t eaten dinner together except on the weekends.  When I was in graduate school, we usually opted for him to travel during finals week so we didn’t have to worry about bothering each other when we both needed to work hard.  It has had a lot of ups and downs, ebbs and flows, but after 4.5 years at Devin’s job and in Atlanta: I feel like we totally knew what we were expecting this year.

I’ve learned to immerse myself in hobbies, friendships, and self-care at this time of the year.  I’ve learned that when he has been eating out every meal on the company’s tab all week that he wants a home cooked one.  He’s learned to budget his time so we can have Sundays for us just together.  He’s learned work boundaries.  He’s learned that I want some nice food after cooking for one all week.  We’ve made a lot of sacrifices.  We’ve learned how to communicate.  We’ve learned how to use our vacation time together to its fullest.

When we became married, I wanted to make sure we always had the opportunity to reach our highest potential.  I feel like there is a lot of negativity and opinions on when people get married as college students in their early twenties.  However, here we are 6 years later and I’m here to tell you that those stereotypes are just that.  We’re happy, we’re debt free beyond my car and our mortgage, we’ve traveled, we both have graduate degrees, we have a beautiful home, we’ve worked, we’ve saved, we’ve laughed, we’ve cried, and we’ve reached a lot more together than we ever would have alone.

It takes time to get to this point, to realize what we have worked on and developed, and I’m happy to be looking at it from this side of the timeline.  When Valentine’s Day approached this year, I smiled at what we have accomplished since our second date anniversary seven years ago.

I think that’s the best Valentine’s day present I can be offered.

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  • I love this and am 100% with you. In January I ate dinner with Chris ONE time, and he fell asleep during it. It’s so important to remember what you really, deeply have together during these busy seasons.

    • I knew you would know exactly what this craziness looks like. Devin has never fallen asleep in his food, but he is one of those crazy people that functions pretty well on little sleep. He starts talking in his sleep when he is super deprived though and that can be interesting. I hope Chris’s job chills out when he gets out of med school. I know Doctor schedules can be just as crazy!

      • He’s already out of med school! Unfortunately the post-med school schedules are even worse! But it really does make me cherish the time we get together!

  • I love this and am 100% with you. In January I ate dinner with Chris ONE time, and he fell asleep during it. It’s so important to remember what you really, deeply have together during these busy seasons.

    • I knew you would know exactly what this craziness looks like. Devin has never fallen asleep in his food, but he is one of those crazy people that functions pretty well on little sleep. He starts talking in his sleep when he is super deprived though and that can be interesting. I hope Chris’s job chills out when he gets out of med school. I know Doctor schedules can be just as crazy!

      • He’s already out of med school! Unfortunately the post-med school schedules are even worse! But it really does make me cherish the time we get together!

  • Y’all are so cute! Sometimes you have to make sacrifices to support your significant other. My husband and I just visited friends of ours (a married couple) from Ohio. They planned their wedding while she was in medical school, while also living a few hours apart. And they spent almost a year of their marriage living apart while she finished medical school. Now they’re in Tampa while she’s in residency, and she has to use most of her vacation time to interview for fellowships. He’s an engineer, so luckily it’s easy for him to find jobs and move for her career. Of course, she’s also really great about using her limited free time for him.

    • It is totally true. Marriage is commitment and part of that is sacrificing for each other. We’ve learned so much and I wouldn’t have it any other way, but I sure am grateful that he is home and not traveling so much 🙂 . I work part-time teaching ESL and have online options. For me, that was a sacrifice we decided to make since I used to work crazy hours as a Special Education teacher too. It has really helped us have some balance and I’m much happier with some time to myself.

  • Y’all are so cute! Sometimes you have to make sacrifices to support your significant other. My husband and I just visited friends of ours (a married couple) from Ohio. They planned their wedding while she was in medical school, while also living a few hours apart. And they spent almost a year of their marriage living apart while she finished medical school. Now they’re in Tampa while she’s in residency, and she has to use most of her vacation time to interview for fellowships. He’s an engineer, so luckily it’s easy for him to find jobs and move for her career. Of course, she’s also really great about using her limited free time for him.

    • It is totally true. Marriage is commitment and part of that is sacrificing for each other. We’ve learned so much and I wouldn’t have it any other way, but I sure am grateful that he is home and not traveling so much 🙂 . I work part-time teaching ESL and have online options. For me, that was a sacrifice we decided to make since I used to work crazy hours as a Special Education teacher too. It has really helped us have some balance and I’m much happier with some time to myself.