Happy 5th to us!

I can’t believe it has been five years since we have been married, but at the same time, I can’t remember how it felt to not have Devin in my life.  The past five years have been beautifully hard; we’ve learned and learned and learned.

We have moved cross country without knowing anyone.  We have had long distance marriage for months, dealt with extensive job traveling, and the closest we have lived to any family has been 6 hours away (at this point, it is 10 hours).  We have experienced the loss of a sibling and chronic pain.  We have experienced debt and have gotten out of it.  

We’ve had job promotions and changes, both of us beginning grad school together, and bringing home our first pet.  We bought a house that made us feel at home and laughed until we cried when we had simultaneous pest control, roof problems, and a leak my first week fo grad school while Devin was traveling.  We have visited 25 states, crawled into the windows of abandoned homes in ghost towns, and walked around ponds that my great-great uncles dug out with mules and dynamite.

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I could go on telling you about the things that this past 5 years has been full of, but I feel it would be undermining the most important thing we have actually learned.

We are far from perfect people and we are two people with very different hobbies, interests, and ways of doing things.  I am a romantic who lives in a world of other meanings and my husband lives on the surface looking at systems of how things function.  We have different conflict and communication styles, grew up in vastly different parts of the country, but we share similar goals and values.  The most important being: our marriage works because we continuously work on forgiving, sacrificing and serving each other.

My testimony in God has become more tangible because I’ve seen how Devin extends mercy to me in my shortcomings and in that process I have become better than what I was.  I have grown in ways I hoped I would, but likely would have lacked the confidence in pursuing by myself.

Happy 5th to us and a forever more to go!

  • Happy 5th anniversary! What a great tribute to the lessons you’ve learned in love 🙂

    • Thank you Torrie! It has been really exciting to reach this milestone. It is wild how fast it has gone!

  • Happy 5 years! Cheers to many more!

  • Happy anniversary Autumn! Today must have been a popular day to get married because I have two other friends celebrating anniversaries today too (one celebrating six years, and the other eleven).

    • Thank you!! It was the Friday after finals for us! Probably similar for other people. It ended up being the busiest day for weddings in Mesa that year so it is always fun to find out all of the people who got married on that day too! 🙂

  • This is beautiful and your pictures are soooo pretty!!! Happy anniversary, guys! I hope you had the perfect day. 🙂

    • Thank you Alex! It was a great one :). So weird to think it has been 5 years!!