Florida + adoption

With summer classes and Devin’s promotion on the table this summer, we decided that we needed to go for every weekend road trip within our grasp; we started out the summer by going to Arkansas, drove to Memphis to see a cousin’s sealing, and went to a wedding in the Smokeys.

My biological cousin invited me to come to Florida for a surprise birthday party.  They are really hilarious so anytime we have an offer, we go!

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When I went to college, I never would have fathomed how open my adoption would become.  My parents were always supportive of me having relationships with my biological family, but I had no idea that when I transferred to BYU that my cousin was starting her first year of there too.  Additionally, it was so surreal when I opened a church magazine and saw that my biological Aunt lived in Salt Lake City just 45 minutes away.

I was so nervous driving to Salt Lake to meet my Aunt and Uncle!  They were so nice and slowly I met other members in the family.  Her granddaughter Lauren and I became friends, we’ve gone down to visit her parents a few times, and last summer Sharon invited us to her family reunion in Yellowstone.

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I feel incredibly blessed to have been able to visit with Devin and to be able to say hi to everyone.  The older I become the fewer questions I have about adoption, but simultaneously, the more in-awe I am in how naturally their family does treat me; additionally, my parents are always humored when I tell them about funny things I do that I have noticed others in my biological do as well.  I know that everyone doesn’t have this opportunity when they are adopted, nor would they perhaps be interested in it, but I am very appreciative of the connections and love I have felt!

Needless to say, Lauren and I kept laughing when people asked how we were related at her Dad’s birthday party.

  • That sounds like a good relationship. Most don’t know. Glad you had fun

    • It is pretty unique, but I am grateful for it!

  • That really is a blessing that you have the option to have those relationships. It’s a wonderful thing!

  • Sam

    That’s so great that you’ve been able to establish a relationship with your biological family and keep in contact with them. Devin’s getting a promotion? Is he moving up to senior? Senior manager?

    • Devin was promoted to senior a few weeks ago. In a couple of years, he’ll be shooting for manager if we’re still around at the firm 🙂 . It has been one crazy, crazy summer for him!! How has Hal’s work schedule been?

  • Florida looks beautiful! And that’s awesome that you have a good relationship with your biological family!

    • You should definitely go there if you have the chance- it was great!! 🙂

  • That is so fun! Coincidentally, my biological dad that I never met lives in Florida!

  • That must have been so nerve-wracking making the decision to meet them but it sounds like you made a great choice!

    • It most definitely was!! I still get very nervous even though it has been nothing but good experiences!!

  • Love all the pics! It looks like a beautiful part of Florida. I’m glad you got to visit! 🙂

  • Scott

    That old church has fascinating structure. I could stare at it all day!

    • Saint Augustine is probably one of the most gorgeous places I’ve been!! There were so many places we didn’t even have time to see.

  • nmiller00

    Such a heartfelt story. Thank you for sharing. I loved it!

    • It is a fun one to tell 🙂 , thanks for your love!

  • It’s wonderful that you have the opportunity to have that relationship. It must be so hard for people that can’t ever connect with their biological family.

    • Every person is so different! I’ve known people who are completely disinterested. The older I was getting the less interested I was, but when I found out members of my biological family lived so closeby I had to check it out! It has been a great opportunity!

  • It’s amazing that you could establish such a good relationship with your biological family.

    • It has been a great opportunity!!

  • eliz frank

    Congratulations to Devon and kudos on your trip to be with members of your biological family. I think it’s a wonderful idea to keep that door open because we humans always want to know the what/why… I love your photos too.

    • Thanks! 🙂 Devin is really happy with the promotion and the road trip was perfectly timed to give him a break. I think keeping an open door is an amazing opportunity if the relationships are healthy!

  • I am so glad to see someone with good connections between adopted family and biological. I only wish I had the same experiences!

    • I shared the positive ones, but I have had some pretty dramatic stuff over the years. It was very hard for me to learn boundaries and to close parts of my adoption off.